Since we’ve already covered how covered you should be on the job, let’s discuss some behaviors that could be considered too sexy for the workforce. The biggest by far is flirting. We all know it’s not okay to flirt with your colleagues and (of course!) your boss, but what’s considered flirting?
For starters, there’s “the look.” This one is akin to how the Government describes pornography, i.e. “Hard to classify, but you know when you see it.” The truth is, we’ve seen “the look” a thousand times in the movies. It’s a classic tale: boy and girl get thrown together by circumstances outside their control. At first, they can barely stand one another and then…the look. I don’t have to explain what happens next. The trouble with “the look” is that you may think you’re being fun and outgoing, but it could be interpreted more seriously. So best to avoid it altogether.
Also, it’s a good idea to be hyper-aware of your body language on the job as well. Us ladies, for example, have a tendency to do things because we’re nervous – e.g. excessive laughter, hair twirling, crossing and uncrossing legs – that, here again, could be mistaken for flirtatious behavior. I said this in the previous post on what to wear, but a general rule is that if you’re even questioning whether a behavior is appropriate, it’s probably not.
But don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying we should neuter the office entirely. I love powerful, charismatic men and women in the workforce who know they’re attractive (and know you know it too). The right balance of confidence and humility can go a long way in your career. What I don’t love is suggestive behaviors. In other words, it’s fine to own your sexuality. It is not fine to flaunt it. Sounds subtle, but difference is actually as wide as the English Channel.
So is it ever acceptable to date a coworker? While company policies vary (check yours), it’s obvious why office romances are so commonplace. Where else can you observe – without actually committing to a date – someone’s communication style, habits, leadership ability, and interpersonal skills? It’s almost too convenient really.
If you’re just looking to have some fun and kiss a couple frogs, definitely stay out of the work pool. However, if you’ve made a legitimate connection with a (SINGLE!) colleague, the best course of action is to be very discrete about your relationship in the beginning – in other words, no coffee pot talk or Facebook updates. Make a pact that if it doesn’t work out, no one will be the wiser and you’ll both keep your private life private. No drama. No hard feelings.
On the other hand, if things turn serious … first check company policy … and then feel free to share your good news. Most businesses will politely look the other way as long as you don’t let your love life interfere with your productivity.
Hey, worked for the Obamas, right?
A confession: I entered the workforce basically throwing blazers over the sequined shirts I used to wear out dancing in college. No one told me I looked completely out of place and inappropriate. Looking back, I wish they had.
Why is it that some professionals seem to get on the fast track from Day One and others get stuck in the mud? Part of the answer lies in technical competency (i.e. how well you perform on the job) but personal style is also critically important. It’s that intangible quality known as ‘Executive Presence’ and what follows are four (very tangible) ways to build yours:
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