Entries from September 2009

A Quick Course in Japanese Etiquette (Post 1 of 2)

September 29, 2009 · Leave a Comment

Tokyo Crossing at Night Since the world is becoming flatter every day, there’s a good chance you will interact with Japanese clients in your career. What are the rules? The truth is there are none. As long as you are making an effort to be polite, you can usually get away with not knowing the specific nuances of most cultures.

In the meantime, however, here are a few lessons I picked up at a recent training with a senior executive who regularly travels to Japan for business.

Never, Ever, Never Be Late: In fact, always plan to be early. Japanese business execs are well-known for arriving five minutes ahead of schedule so they can enter at the precise time the meeting is to start.

Respect the Card: In America, we are accustomed to bending, tearing, writing on and otherwise abusing our business cards. But in Japan, this tiny bit of card stock is golden. For example, when offering your card to a Japanese guest, you use both hands (one in each corner) and ensure that the writing is facing the reader. Likewise, when someone offers you their card, you receive it with both hands and make sure to comment about something – anything – on it. Also, never casually or immediately put the card away into your pocket, purse, etc. Rather, you lay the guests’ business card face up on the table where you will be sitting and leave it alone for the duration of the meeting. If you have multiple cards, it’s acceptable to arrange them on the table according to seating order. Finally, when the meeting is over, you neatly tuck the business card away in a holder. (Yes, you will need a holder.)

Where to Sit? When going into a meeting or dinner, take your seating cues from the host. While it is customary for guests to be facing the door, exceptions are made now if the view is better on the other side. Evidentially, this goes back to ancient times when hosts would demonstrate they could be trusted by sitting with their back to the door. These days, even though it’s highly unlikely an army will barge into your meeting with Samurai swords, the practice has remained loosely intact.

In my next post, I will touch on some common things we do in the West when communicating that mean totally different things in Japan. Until then – jaamataashita! Translation: Sayounara.

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Image Building on a Budget

September 24, 2009 · Leave a Comment

Sharp Dressed ManIt’s recruiting season. That means all across the country, universities are hosting career fairs to link employers with their next round of summer interns or entry-level hires. And whether you’re gearing up for an interview, or you’ve already landed a new position, below are five basic wardrobe requirements every new professional should own.

Essentials for Women

(* = Beware of dry cleaning.)

1.) * Suits: This is one area where you must invest in quality. Buy suits you can mix-and-match so it looks like you own more than you actually do. Also, dark colors are best for interviews but, after you’ve been on the job a few weeks, feel free to break out the red.

2.) Shoes: Start with a couple pairs of black and brown high heels that are attractive enough to be fashionable, but not stylish enough for colleagues to notice you’re wearing them every day. (Note: It’s acceptable to wear open-toed shoes in summer but, unless you’re headed to a cocktail party, strappy shoes are a no-no year round.)

3.) Dresses: Use dresses to add color to your wardrobe but – for the love of Christmas – keep the length at knee-level.

4.) Purses: I’m a fan of (fake) leather purses that are large enough to carry a padfolio. I think they look more professional in a work setting and allow you to lug binders, etc. if needed. For budget shoppers, stick with black, brown, or neutral purses so they go with everything.

5.) Accessories: With accessories it’s better to err on the side of being too conservative than too casual. For an interview setting, I would avoid dangling earrings, exposed tattoos, and any brightly colored or chunky jewelry. Also, when it comes to hose, there are really only three rules: Never wear ‘em with open-toed shoes, forget ‘em in the summer, keep ‘em neutral in the winter.

Essentials for Men:

1.) * Suits: Same rules as above, though I’d skip the red regardless of how long you’ve been on the job.

2.) * Dress shirts: Best to purchase a variety of dress shirts (white or blue for interviews) and, unless you’re interviewing for night manager at the Circle K, long-sleeve only please.

3.) Shoes: Polished leather shoes are s-h-a-r-p. Also, I cannot underestimate how important it is to have a strong distaste for white socks in the office.

4.) Belts and ties: Another area where quality counts. Good rule of thumb: If either of these items are packaged in a box, back away slowly.

5.) * Tailored khaki pants: I don’t mean custom tailored, but fitted pants just look better than their baggy cousins. If you’re one of those guys who wears pants (and shirts for that matter) that are WAY to big….stop. Just stop.

We’ve all heard that your appearance is how people instantly evaluate your potential. In interview settings in particular, these first impressions can be make or break. Remember the post on being polished, professional, and personable? In truth, it all boils down to self-esteem, and when you feel good about how you look, that translates into confidence that will help your career.

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The Edge You May Not Be Thinking About

September 21, 2009 · Leave a Comment

This post was originally written for  www.ysn.com. Special thanks to Jennifer Kushell and Monique Peltz for allowing me to contribute to the extraordinary Young and Successful network.

Gossip GirlsEtiquette. It’s a subtle art, but one that has significant importance throughout your career. And, in light of the recent discussion on customer service, it seems common courtesy is needed now more than ever.

If you’re reading this blog, you are trying to build a name for yourself. You probably don’t have a lot of work product to stand on yet, so you’re being judged by others on “soft skills” like manners. What are the rules? Here’s a (very) short list everyone should know:

  • Avoid gossip.
  • Stand (and shake hands) when being introduced or when your boss/client enters the room for a meeting.
  • Never miss an opportunity to send a thank you note.

Other than that, when trying to please your clients, the most courteous thing you can do is to be responsive. You should make every effort to respond to all emails and phone calls by the close of business – if only to say that you received the message and will follow-up soon.

When trying to please your boss, all of the above rules apply PLUS a cold-turkey avoidance of Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, and other networking sites on the job. Unless you’re responsible for the web presence of your organization, it’s best to save the social media for after hours. It amazes me that every day I receive Facebook emails from friends with comments on photos or old status updates. I’m all for a quick sanity break every once in a while, but if you’re spending more than 10-15 minutes on Facebook at work, it’s rude and it will cost you down the line.

That’s because at this stage in your career, it’s critical to be a grinder and focused on learning the technical skills that can propel you to a leadership level. Once you get there, however, the script changes and the soft skills become a bigger factor in your success. Master the art of etiquette now, and it may save you from learning the hard way later.

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What Does Your Auto-Reply Say About You?

September 16, 2009 · Leave a Comment

E-LoveToday I sent an email and got a standard autoreply.

But it wasn’t standard at all. In fact, it was kinda rude. It said:

I’ll be out of the office most of the day

No explanation.

No “if this important, please contact…”

No “I’m checking email and will respond as soon as possible…”

Not even a period at the end of the sentence.

I was floored. Wonder if his boss sent him an email and got that in return? Surely this isn’t the type of customer service he/she wants their employees to provide?

Better yet, I wonder if a client needed an answer on something (or had a big opportunity on the line!) only to be met with this curt response that basically implies whatever they have to say is simply not important and will be dealt with…well, as soon as Mr. X feels like it.

In today’s workforce, where you not only represent your company, but you have a “personal brand” to protect, everything you do is a reflection of your professionalism….or lack thereof.

C’mon Mr. X. Really?

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Be Relevant

September 12, 2009 · Leave a Comment

iStock_000006680981Small[1]It’s just a fact of life that some people get past the velvet ropes of business and others don’t. The good news is that if you consistently find yourself on the outside looking in, the only thing preventing you from getting past the gate is your relevance to the gatekeeper. And by gatekeeper, I mean those people you want and/or need to know. Think about that for a second.

Odds are, the people on your list are in a position to help you get something you want. This is because, for the most part, we gravitate towards relationships that bring value to ourselves, i.e., we judge others based on their relevance to us.

Once you understand this, all you have to do is figure out a way to become relevant to the people you’d like to know better. Make them NEED YOU for something, be that an important project, task, or even just a sounding board on their favorite hobby.

Example: Say you’re an entry-level exec trying to make friends on a new job. You learn that Sara in Cubicle D is a travel buff who backpacks through Europe every summer. You spent a semester in Madrid. Ta-da.

Better example: Say you’re an entry-level exec trying to get noticed on a new job. You learn the president of your company is on the Board of the local YMCA. You volunteer for a steering committee. Now, every third Thursday of the month you and the bigwig are partnering on projects from soccer tourneys to scholarship programs.

If your not *getting* as much as you’d like from your career, think about how much you’re giving.

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Big Corporate Events: Who Gets to Go and Why?

September 6, 2009 · Leave a Comment

Greenbrier

I just returned from a Chamber of Commerce Business Summit at the gorgeous Greenbrier Resort. Steve Forbes was the keynote speaker and more than 500 executives gathered to hobnob, catch up, and be seen. While attending these types of exclusive events has always been a privilege reserved for top brass and rising stars, these days businesses are being even more selective about who gets to go.

Since having a presence at big corporate events is a key indicator of your “young gun” status, below are a few guaranteed ways to make the cut.

Be Polished – No, it’s not always fair, but companies make a habit of sending their “face” men and women to represent them in public. This doesn’t mean you have to be the most attractive person in your organization, but you do need to look the part of a leader. If your idea of Casual Friday extends to Tuesday, Wednesday, etc., you may be overlooked for these important opportunities.

Be Professional – When sending representatives “in the field,” employers want to know that they are going to embody the highest levels of etiquette and professional courtesy. Think about it: Are you mature and responsible enough to play in the space of your company’s very best clients and prospects?

Be Personable – There’s no question that business today involves copious networking receptions and dinner meetings. And if you’re known as the office introvert, you won’t be invited to many of them. Fortunately, being social is a learned skill. The key is simply to be approachable, to make other people feel comfortable and, when in doubt, ask open-ended questions like “Tell me about what you do.”

Be Productive – As a new professional, you probably aren’t a chief rainmaker yet. Therefore, your job at the meeting can be summed up in five words: Make your boss look good. For example, if your company has sponsored a breakout session, be willing to do the behind-the-scenes grunt work (signage, set-up, etc.) needed to be an indispensable resource in their eyes.

As you move up the ladder in your career, never underestimate the benefits of big corporate events. Not only are they significant opportunities to bond with colleagues and develop critical networking skills, but your attendance will be like a neon sign to others that your company is grooming you as someone to watch.

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